Thursday, June 11, 2009
So, what is this pleasing and charming thing? Well, it's something that to do with a courtship. If a guy charms a girl, he's making the girl to fall for him and his character. If it's pleasing, that will mean the guy trying to be the dream bf that the girl wants.
Love or to be loved, that's the origin for the title of this post I guess. Friends around me have been telling me different answers to which they preferred. Loving someone is just like trying your best to please the other one so that he or she can in turn return you the pleasing part. To be loved, will of course, be the opposite. It is when you are receiving the adore of someone and reciprocating lesser or none at all. Thus, the latter will be manipulating the whole relationship.
Because due to the fact that when you are a please-er, you will tend to change yourself or pretend to be someone that's not the true you. It will get more and more tiring even if you are yourself but trying to please him/her as you are putting much more efforts. Especially when there is no much response from the other person, you will feel extremely disappointing.
A charmer on the other hand, doesn't really need to put in much effort to try and think of some surprises to gain an upper hand in the game of courtship. The fact that he only need to do what he normally does, will already attract the opposite gender into his/her lair, dominating the game already. As little effort is required, the result of his/her actions, will not be of much impact/effect to his/her morale.
Well, I had been in both roles before. Only till this day, then I think that being a Charmer is more relaxing. Loving someone at the start of a courtship, is too tiring and you really have to face alot of emotional obstacles. Guess I prefer to manipulate than to being manipulated by love.
Labels: charming, courtship, love, pleasing, relationship, to be loved
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